Sunday, July 26, 2009


The group that saw Wicked last night...Lynn, Marilyn's daugher; Dee, Marilyn, and me. I wasn't expecting Wicked to have such complex messages. I loved it. We all did. I had the urge to go out and collect green things (Emerald City of Oz and the green complexion of the wicked witch of the west) but settled for a tee shirt that says "wicked."

Saturday, July 25, 2009

How Can We Make Our Lives Better

Hi Courtney! We had lunch at D'Novo yesterday and talked about how we could make our lives even better than they are - which is our topic of conversation whenever we get together. After that I thought seriously about how well I was doing with not taking a nap and decided that to make my life better, I was going to take one. So, I slept from 1:00 to 5:00 and from 11:00 p.m. to 7:00 a.m. I think today is going to be another exception where I am going to take a nap. So there.

Thursday, July 23, 2009


The monthly reunion of the 2009 Stage II Recovery class was at my house tonight and here's a partial view of the setting. Everything is very tidy - always a good reason for having people over. We had a great time. It was pot luck and our luck was terrific - the best meal I've had recently. Our sharing was upbeat - everyone was making progress. All stuff I love to hear.

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Grocery Store

So today's picture is of my full refrigerator. It doesn't usually look this way. I don't like to go to the grocery store. I'm not sure why. Somewhere along the way I lost my gratitude for being able to go to the grocery store. Someone else had to go for me. Until you've experienced this... well, I was very, very grateful for the help. At the same time, half the time I don't know exactly what I want until I sort through what's available. When I first became able to go on my own, I was thrilled. But now the thrill is gone. It's an exhausting process. It takes me about three hours from start to finish because I sit down and rest a lot. But now the job is done and I've got food for a couple of weeks!

Tuesday, July 21, 2009


By looking extremely closely you may see two very tiny unassuming birds that somehow got by the squirrels and are eating at the birdfeeder! Victory!!

Monday, July 20, 2009

Every gun that is made, every warship launched, every rocket fired, signifies in the final sense a theft from those who hunger and are not fed, those who are cold and are not clothed. Dwight D. Eisenhower

Today's pictures - inside of my car at the car wash. I was just curious as to what the pictures would look like. Now I know. Today was errand day and it's 5:00. I finished all but two on the list which made me happy and will give me some time to do something besides run around getting things done. How did errands get to be such a big deal? I know I always felt totally overwhelmed when I was working full time and no wonder since I went from the library to the book store, to get cat food, gas and a car wash, etc. etc. and it took several hours. I'm actually grateful to be able to do it. For a long time there someone else ran errands for me - it usually took several people. Strange to be grateful for errands but I am.

Sunday, July 19, 2009

Sunday at the Park

I often go to a meeting on Sunday morning at a little building in LaFortune park with a bunch of windows that look out on these views. We call the building the glass house and the meeting the glass house meeting. Outside is a little lake with ducks and geese. Another happy thing.

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Saturday, July 18, 2009

Farmer's Market Day

A little bit of heaven on a relatively mild day. The last picture in the collage (courtesy of my learning a little bit of a new skill with my digital camera and some new software) is of the loot I brought home from the market. Right now I'm going to put the flowers in water and eat some of that bread and send happy thoughts to the guy playing music at the market who had his walker right there. I can relate.

Friday, July 17, 2009

Mary Ann VanWinkle

"Just for today I will live through this one day only and not tackle all my problems at once." Just for Today.

This new thing I'm doing - voice mapping - that I hope will do what it's supposed to do - which is to rewire my nervous system so that I don't have so many ptsd symptoms - is putting me to sleep. I'm sleeping a long time at night and am having trouble staying up all day. One day I got up at 7:00 a.m., did my morning routine and went back to bed at 8:30. I slept until 3:00 p.m., ate and went to bed for the night around 6:00 and slept until 9:00 the next morning. I don't seem to have much choice about whether I go to sleep or not. Plus I am very sad this week since my son who died 30 years ago would have been 45 on the 15th. I am sad because I still miss him. It seems to me to be strange that I would still love and miss someone who wasn't quite 15 when he died and has been gone 30 years. It must mean that love is more powerful than time. I'm making my best effort to take care of business since my program has taught me not to let myself be overwhelmed by anything I'm dealing with. I picked up my taxes today - since I sent in some money based on a wild guess as to what I might owe, I'm getting some of it back. That's a happy thing. Tonight I will be going to my regular Friday night meeting right after I meet one of the women I sponsor for dinner so that we can go over her 8th step work. That's another happy thing.

New Toy

Cisco has a new toy - I went to Target after some basic necessities and came back with a new toy for Cisco - a "cat condo" with a feather. He does think it's pretty cool. Target is a dangerous place for me. Last time I was there I bought a metal tub with a peace symbol on it. This impulse purchase is at least a little more practical. Cisco is the king and he deserves having something new. The other good news is that I was able to put the thing together without help. I have a flat spot in my brain re: spatial perceptions, but this thing was easy enough even for me.

Thursday, July 16, 2009


Obnoxious bird with a furry tail. It must be a bird. It's a squirrel-proof bird feeder.

Here he is - the fat little devil. He's on the right side of the squirrel-proof birdfeeder. Note his fat little belly.

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Tuesday, July 14, 2009


I hoped that the birds would find the food in the squirrel-proof birdfeeder before the squirrel's did but I was wrong. I tried to get a picture of the squirrels cleaning it out, but they are so used to my screaming at them that I couldn't get a picture. The birds are on the ground trying to get seeds that the squirrels have dropped. I think I need to Google how to keep squirrels from eating from squirrel-proof bird feeders.

"I ask God to make me willing to see clearly my eeryday experiences, to sharpen my perception of how much there is to enjoy even in ordinary things and happenings. Let me be receptive. Restore to me my sense of wonder." One Day at a Time.

Monday, July 13, 2009

I've been taking some pretty bad pictures the last few days - under or over exposed. But this one isn't bad. I took it yesterday of the cars in my driveway belong to several of the participants in our monthly women's step practice group. Some of them carpool so there are never that many cars. The other picture is of the cars parked on the street. Proof that we actually had the meeting.

Let me make this day a celebration of the spirit. Courage to Change.

Sunday, July 12, 2009

Last winter I got annoyed with the squirrels stealing all the birdseed from my squirrel-proof bird feeder and stopped putting bird seed in it. These two doves sitting on my ramp railing faithfully visited me anyway. So, I rewarded them with some birdseed.

Saturday, July 11, 2009

Kristin on the carousel at Casa Bonita's. This was our afternoon together, plus Kristin helped Lynn put birdseed in the bird feeders and Lynn went to the store for me.

Friday, July 10, 2009

My white silk quilt is supposed to go to the cleaners. But my friend, Heather, said that was ridiculous and I should wash it. So I did. It and figuring my finances (it is as I expected: I'm poor at the moment) were my big accomplishments for the day. I wish it were more exciting or beautiful but whatever.

Thursday, July 09, 2009


An illustration of how my life is going - the take out door of Applebees. My search for a permanent solution to my lousy nervous system hardwiring has taken me to a therapy called "voice mapping." You can Google it and get an idea of what it is. All I'm going to say about it is that I've been sleeping most of the time since the last session. I'm hoping that means that I'm just catching up on my sleep rather than a step backward. More later.
"We'll find joy when we find acceptance of ourselves and our efforts and the belief that we are spiritual beings whose lives do have purpose and direction." Each Day a New Beginning.

Tuesday, July 07, 2009

365 Project - Miss Figgy

Here is Miss Figgy - my "fig" tree (ficus) that I've had since 1980. She is an icon for me - representing miracles. She survived my drinking, and when I got into recovery she only had a few leaves. One of the first things I learned to do was to be responsible for the living things in my house. Then she survived the fire we had in 2000, thanks to friends who cleaned soot off all her poor little leaves, repotted her and brought her back when we moved back into the house. I try to tell her frequently how much I appreciate her hanging in there with me.

"When you and I are one with God, have aligned our will with the will of God, we know joy. We know this fully, that all is well. No harm can befall us." Each Day a New Beginning

Monday, July 06, 2009

More 365 Project - 4th of July weekend

A sampling of the weekend - the picture I took of Liz's book that I'm going to get for myself because of the marvelous ideas it has. It's responsible for the picture I took of the sky on the way home - from the car. Pretty good for me!. Also Bec and Michael, her new boyfriend who is taller than she is.

Adam is exercising with the Wii.

Liz and Adam are fixing dinner.

Badminton and volleyball- Aaron and Bec. They were friends (siblings) when Bec was a baby, but something changed and they weren't anymore. But just recently there was another change and they are friends again.

Taking family pictures.

Eating the buffet at the Asian restaurant.

Here's another chandelier and and the art work at our table.

365 Project

My friend Karen and I are celebrating my birthday (I know how to stretch those birthday celebrations out!) at one of our favorite places - D'Novo. All the entrees are 500 calories or less. I had steak, grilled vegetables and mashed sweet potatoes. So did she. The food is fabulous and so is the environment. Check out that chandelier - there are several.

Friday, July 03, 2009


Here's the entrance to Spirit Bank - locally owned bank where Ron and I had accounts for years and years. Ron had his office in this building for most of the time he was in private practice. He said his clients who were under the illusion that no one knew they were drunks or addicts loved it that his offices were in a bank building. Our CPA is also in this building and I have my accounts here too. Yesterday I got my 2008 tax information to the CPA's office. I think the only year that I met the April 15 deadline was the first year after the wreck, and I managed that because I had all the books in good shape through August. The other two years I made it by October 15. By that standard I was early this year. This building holds so many memories for me. I worked with Ron here. I came to get him after work a lot. We spent hours here - days, nights, weekends - people who are addicted need help at odd times. And they are all good memories.
"Greeting life with joy alters every experience for us and for those we share it with." Each Day a New Beginning.

Thursday, July 02, 2009


Dear friend, Cisco, is the cleanest cat in the world. He has to be. He sleeps, eats, poops and cleans and cleans and cleans. Of course, he has to make time for all that in between kissing me and following me around. What a joy it is to have a companion that's so full of love!

"...we need joy in our lives, just as surely as we need rest and a good diet...The knowledge that joy is inherent, within every experience, is mine, now and forever." Each Day a New Beginning

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