This one absolutely amazed me. I had someone in my life that walked into my house without knocking and another person who took any money I left anywhere in my house. Of course, I had thrown my usual fits about being victimized, so they both knew how I felt but kept going. I felt like a helpless victim. My dear sponsor was not impressed with my victimhood and kept asking me 1) why I didn't lock the door and 2) why I didn't lock up my money. I thought this was bad advice since the obvious solution was for them to behave.
Eventually I got it, though, and did what I needed to do. I realized that I just expected people to do what I wanted and was horrified when they didn't. She told me that everyone has different rules and different motives for doing what they do and that my expectations were what was making me miserable.
It turns out that those principles are applicable to a lot of things in life. She suggested that I quit taking other people's words and behaviors personally, bless them and live the way I thought God wanted me to. I forget about this from time to time, but life always gives me a reason to remember it.
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