I always thought surrender was a bad thing.  It meant I had lost and was a loser.  It meant that I was just stuck in my helplessness and wou...

When I started moving from feeling helpless to solve problems to living in solutions, it felt like a whole new planet and a whole new life. ...

For so much of my adult life I lived with what I thought were unsolvable problems.  That's a hellish way to live.  After I came into rec...

I've learned that taking a good look at what's causing my stomach to knot up is a terrific idea even if it's a little unpleasant...

I used to have an on-going source of misery in trying to figure out what to wear.  I was 100% unhappy with my clothes 100% of the time.  I w...

September in Leo's Sea Change program (Zen Habits), is letting go of being judgmental month.  Wow!  That's a challenge for me, for s...

A very long time ago - probably about 20 years ago - I discovered that if I fell asleep with the T.V. on, it helped me sleep better.  Instea...

I spent the greater portion of my life in a rush to finish my to do list.  I started making todolists when I was a teenager because somehow ...

For a lot of my adult life I just wanted all my emotions to just go away.  I kind of wanted happy to stay but was willing to give it up to g...

Since people in recovery talk to each other about problems a lot, I've heard a lot from wives who are sick of their husbands demanding s...

When I'm quiet and listen to people talk around me in public settings, it surprises me how much of their conversation is either complain...

From time to time I notice that I deeply believe that social convention is a total load of hog wash.  I've believed it for such a long t...

"R-E-S-P-E-C-T  Find out what it means to me..." I've always loved Aretha Franklin's song, although I never really thoug...

I worked in the disability field for several years and in the elder care field for a lot more years.  In both of those jobs I found that a l...

I'm just making a note of what I'm working on now:  I've made a commitment to myself to develop my intuition - to really spend s...

Not having a lot of energy for running around in the world gives me time for introspection.  Not the most fun always.  I have realized that ...

The love of my life left the earth about 8 1/2 years ago, but I am still discovering things about him, about myself, and about my relationsh...

When I was reading one of my recovery books this morning, I was happy to see one of the sentences that expressed a central principles of rec...

I feel obligated to write about what I've learned about sex over a lifetime, but I realize I actually don't know that much.  Which i...

I'm currently single (and happy about it), but I've been married three times.  I learned a lot.  I've learned a lot more in my r...